And then, one day, they are grown.

Eylene and Christopher built their wood cabin on an undeveloped
piece of land that still have to be tamed.
They are pioneering it with no water or electricity

Leon and Deidré converted an old cottage on the farm
to suit their needs, while farming full time under
harsh conditions.

And then, one day, they are grown.
With no real need of me.
Busy building lives,
houses, careers.
Working on important relationships
which do not include parental ones.

I visit in homes where they do things their way.
I listen to conversations where I am not included.
In their lives they've had more than their piece of my mind, I'm sure.

It is hard for me to find my balance on this tightrope they are unaware of.

Yet, I look at what they are trying so
very hard to do: finding their own feet,
doing what they know or love best,
following their instincts,
as I so hoped they would.

And I stand amazed and proud.
They are grown and independent of me.
Someone once told me that is the true measure of being successful
as a parent.

It seems I've graduated with flying colours.
I can now join the ranks of The Proudly Outgrown Ones.
And live trustingly until a time they will know
That I need them as they once needed me.

Matilda

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Vanuit Die Restory - Gesprekke Tussen Reisgenote (110)

Die Week Na 'n Dood Sebastien op sy gelukkigste - by water, besig om vis te vang Die Gesprek Elemente Uit Die Gesprek Musiek Sebastien het altyd gesê, "I like old music.' Hy het. Billy Joel se Piano Man was vir baie lank die ringtone op sy foon. Dat ons só gelukkig kan wees, dankie Sebas. George & Matilda

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Onlangse Oorsig / Recent Summary Foto's Van Onlangse Gebeure / Pictures Of Recent Events 'n Huis opgeknap en geverf met 'n nuwe badkamer, die koms van lente en reën, retreats, die CMR se breimarathon, aanbied en afsluiting van die Verfrissingskursus in geestelike begeleiding, bywoon van ons kleindogter Ariana se gradeplegtigheid ("Nee Oupa, dis 'n gradige plegtigheid!") voordat sy volgende jaar grootskool toe gaan. A house renovated and painted with a new bathroom, the arrival of spring and rain, retreats, the CMR's knitting marathon, presenting and finishing the Refresher course in spiritual guidance, attending our granddaughter Ariana's graduation before she goes to big school next year. Klank / Sound Die klank van sagte reën na die storm is op baie vlakke nou gepas. The sound of gentle rain after the storm is now appropriate on many levels. Met ons liefde, soos altyd. With our love, as always. George & Matilda

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Skuld as Motivering Die Gesprek Elemente Uit Die Gesprek ~ ❖ ~ "I am convinced that guilt and shame are never from God. They are merely the defenses of the False Self as it is shocked at its own poverty — the defenses of a little man who wants to be a big man. God leads by compassion toward the soul, never by condemnation. If God would relate to us by severity and punitiveness, God would only be giving us permission to do the same (which is tragically, due to our mistaken images of God, exactly what has happened!)." Richard Rohr ~ ❖ ~ "It is about as hard to absolve yourself of your own guilt as it is to sit in your own lap. Wrongdoing sparks guilt sparks wrongdoing ad nauseam, and we all try to disguise the grim process from both ourselves and everybody else. In order to break the circuit we need friends before whom we can put aside the disguise, trusting that when they see us for what we fully are, they won't run away screaming with, if nothing wors

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