And then, one day, they are grown.

Eylene and Christopher built their wood cabin on an undeveloped
piece of land that still have to be tamed.
They are pioneering it with no water or electricity

Leon and Deidré converted an old cottage on the farm
to suit their needs, while farming full time under
harsh conditions.

And then, one day, they are grown.
With no real need of me.
Busy building lives,
houses, careers.
Working on important relationships
which do not include parental ones.

I visit in homes where they do things their way.
I listen to conversations where I am not included.
In their lives they've had more than their piece of my mind, I'm sure.

It is hard for me to find my balance on this tightrope they are unaware of.

Yet, I look at what they are trying so
very hard to do: finding their own feet,
doing what they know or love best,
following their instincts,
as I so hoped they would.

And I stand amazed and proud.
They are grown and independent of me.
Someone once told me that is the true measure of being successful
as a parent.

It seems I've graduated with flying colours.
I can now join the ranks of The Proudly Outgrown Ones.
And live trustingly until a time they will know
That I need them as they once needed me.

Matilda

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